I have a great Mother. She is one of those moms that is fun, kind and I love just hanging out with her. Steve’s mom is the same way. So, Mothers day, I decided a long time ago, was not about me being a mom it was about mine and Steve’s mom. Mother’s day would come and the whole day I would just “try” and ignore the fact that it was basically the same as any other day (but secretly hoping that something spectacular was about to happen) and focus on The Moms. The key word is “try”! I should preface this by telling you what I expected on Mother’s Day, Basically I expect to do none of the jobs or tasks that actually deem me “Mother” in the first place, tasks such as dishes, cooking, changing diapers, breaking up kid fights, cleaning up spills, being told no, the list could go on… So as I am trying to focus on my Moms and not focus on my expectations, I start getting more and more agitated and end up ruining the day for my self because I have set my expectations so high as I secretly hope for this grand occasion where all of the sudden my kids realize that I am truly the best mom and peace and love surrounds us all, the house will be cleaned spotless by a magical fairy and war will end, blah blah blah blah. So basically if I am not feeling agitated for not being praised and pampered, I am feeling despair for all my failures as a mother, This is a lot of emotion packed into ONE DAY!!!!!
This year I tried something new and left town for a couple of days—Friday and Saturday—and came home Sunday right before church on Mother’s Day. This by far was one of the better things I have done in a long time. This basically left all responsibility for shopping and kids on Steve (which by the way he did a great job). And none of the responsibility on myself, which as I mentioned before, is my ultimate Mother’s day expectation. The house was not immaculate when I got home and Sally was worse than ever at church, my kids disobeyed throughout the day, and Steve and I even got into a little tiff about a lost gift, but I did not care!! It was a great day, full of family, cards, hugs and kisses, flowers and food. Two days of no mother duties was the key to a successful Mother’s Day at our home!!!
